Chapter 27


 

Alex:

 

That first day I simply sat with him outside watching him paint, he didn’t speak much and I didn’t push the conversation either. I wasn’t sure how to approach him; he was wounded and mistrusting for a good reason. I thought I could at first just allow him to get used to my presence there beside him and perhaps eventually he would start talking.

 

Taffy sat on my lap as I stroked her fur gently and she seemed to enjoy the attention and petting that she got. A lazy summer afternoon, at times Jo glanced at me like trying to figure me out and I kept wondering what was going through his mind. I reminded myself that I was in no rush to go anywhere and that with right amount of patience I would see more progress.

 

I ate dinner with the family and then left back to my hotel after having a short conversation with his parents and agreeing that I would again arrive the following morning. Saara, I think was more forgiving of my long lasted absence than Jo’s father was, but I felt grateful that even he didn’t object my visits. I guess in the end he was curious if I could manage in the task of getting Jo out of his shell. We all agreed that everything went on Jo’s terms, they wouldn’t intervene too much and it would be up to Jo if he would later invite me to stay at the house, in the mean time I would continue travelling back and forth.

 

Two days went by like this and finally on the third I decided to try and take the next step.

 

“Would you go for a walk with me Jo?” I asked after watching him paint for some time. His painting brush stopped its movement and he turned his gaze to me. “We could take Taffy with us?” I suggested and saw him hesitate for a moment before he finally nodded. I smiled and got up. “I’ll go and get the leash.” I told him and again he nodded starting to collect his paints and brushes.

 

“I need to wash these first,” he said and glanced at me to which I smiled softly.

 

“Okay, meet you at the front,” I replied and walked to the house Taffy following.

 

 

 

“So, where would you like to go?” I asked him and Jo shrugged. “How about to that forest, it seems quite peaceful?” I suggested, Joonas looked around carefully before nodding. We started to walk; I allowed my eyes take in the beauty of the nature. Joonas walked beside me, quiet and observing the surroundings, it seemed to me that it was more to watch any possible signs of danger than the pure enjoyment of nature, every little sound made him startle and when another man happened to walk by I noticed him moving closer to my side. It was sad and sweet at the same time; sad that he was so mistrusting and scared, sweet that whether it was unconscious behaviour or not; he still sought comfort from me, which meant I still had some level of his trust. We walked a narrow sand road, the sun shone through the trees and to me it seemed somehow mystical.

 

“It’s beautiful here,” I finally said wanting to break the silence. Jo looked up to me, almost smiling.

 

“Yes…” He whispered then and drifted his gaze down to the path that we were walking on. I looked at him, wishing he would speak more, tell me if he had made his decision yet, but at the same time I didn’t want to push him. 

 

“Have you walked here often?” I asked just wanting to start up a conversation with him.

 

“Sometimes, with my sister or my parents…” He replied quietly. “Never alone,” he added and glanced at me, wrapping his arms around himself. I nodded at this wondering if he would ever be able to trust new people with everything that he had been through. I felt his gaze on me and turned my face to him, saw the thoughtful expression and smiled gently.

 

 “What is it?” I asked carefully and Jo sighed, even smiled a little, though the sorrow from his eyes never faded.

 

“It would be like this Alex,” he started.

 

“Yes?” I asked and looked at him expectantly, waiting for him to continue.

 

“Quiet walks like this and quiet life, I easily get anxious around other people,” he explained and quickly glanced at my hand to my wedding ring before looking back up. “I just really find this difficult, life in general and…” Again he turned his gaze from me before continuing. “I don’t know if you realise how difficult it would be with me. I am not some wounded animal that you can look after and feel better about yourself… The thing is Alex, I am scared to let you in my life again, scared to let you close, I’m afraid that if I do…” Another deep sigh. “There’s only so much that I can take, I don’t think I could handle letting you close again and then watching you leave.”

 

“Jo…” I started, but he stopped walking and held his hand out to signal he had more to say. We stood face to face and I waited while wanting to reassure him that I had no intention of leaving if he only would let me back in.

 

“This is… so difficult…” his voice trembled slightly and for a moment he brought his hand to his lips avoiding my gaze. “I’m so afraid… all the time and I don’t know what to do… I’m turning 23 soon and… I don’t know how to build my life back… And it would only make your life difficult as well; you don’t want someone so confused like I am… You need a lover and I-… God… what they did… “ He started to tremble, tears forming in his eyes and insecurely I reached out to touch his shoulders. At first he backed away, shaking his head and I felt helpless wanting to comfort him, to hold him and…

 

“Jo…shh… please, Jo…I would never hurt you… I love you…” I whispered and he looked into my eyes in searching way, silent for some time.

 

“You have your life in Germany, Alex and I can’t come back, I won’t.”

 

“I’m not asking you to…” I whispered to him softly and carefully reached my hand to his face, gently brushing the tears away with my thumb.

 

“You would leave everything and move here?” He questioned and I nodded.

 

“You are my husband and my place is with you,” I told him calmly, smiling a little. Jo frowned.

 

“I don’t want you to sacrifice your life for me!” He suddenly snapped, breathing tensely. “You could have so much better than me! I don’t think you realise…” He stopped and took a deep breath then held out his arms in front of me so that I could see the scars on his wrists. “This is me Alex, there are scars and some you can’t see but they are there. I’ve changed and you miss the person that I was, not the one that I am now. “

 

“I know what happened, I hurt as well and I can’t pretend it didn’t happen either… And yes of course you’ve changed, I’ve changed, but neither one of us have changed completely and not... I know that deep down, you are the same Jo I fell in love with and I want to be here with you good or bad.” I took a deep breath, carefully taking his hand; he didn’t draw back which made me relieved. “Jo, I know it won’t be easy, but staying away would be harder. I don’t ask you to… sleep with me,” I whispered and his gaze sifted from me. “Or even share the bed, not if you are not ready, all I ask, for now, is to share your life with me as innocently as you like… And I promise that I’m not going anywhere…”

 

 

 “You are so stubborn…” He whispered then and I smiled.

 

“Yes, I am,” I whispered back, brushing his cheek gently with my hand and he frowned looking at me.  “I do love you Jo,” I repeated. “Please let me back into your life?”

 

“I’m scared…”

 

“I know, but you don’t have to be with scared with me.” Jo lowered his gaze and when we heard voices, male voices he looked around us his breathing quickening, seeking my hand which he squeezed; an act that made me smile because it really did mean that he trusted me. “Let’s go back to the house,” I suggested and he nodded staying close to my side as we walked.

 

 

“Would you like to come upstairs?” Jo asked once we reached the front yard and I nodded feeling hopeful. Jo picked Taffy up to his arms and we walked together to the house.

 

From the stairs we entered straight into his kitchen; which was spacious and decorated with light colours. Jo lowered Taffy on the floor and she headed straight to her bowl to drink some water. “Now that I have my own floor it’s not a problem to keep Taffy, you know, because my dad is allergic.” Jo explained watching her and seeming slightly nervous. “I can give you a small tour if you like?” He asked glancing at me and sneaking his hands into his pockets.

 

“Yes, I would like that.” I said and the followed him.

 

“Here’s the living room…”

 

“Looks nice,” I smiled, the room was simple, calming colours and green plants, a peaceful sea shore picture on the wall. Jo smiled faintly and showed his bedroom and bathroom hastily before walking back into the kitchen.

 

“Would you like some juice?”

 

“Sure, thanks,” I answered and took a seat down in front of the table. I gazed around the room, then out from the window. “It truly is beautiful here,” I took note and glanced at him again, receiving another careful almost hesitant smile. He placed the glass of juice in front of me and sat down opposite from me.

 

“We could afford this house because of the money I got from them…” Jo whispered, looking down at the glass in his hands. “It feels… weird…” He confessed and looked outside. I thought it was a good sign that he started to talk about it. “Did you know that his mother send me some money as well?” He asked not looking at me, keeping his gaze outside.

 

“No, I didn’t…” I answered watching him carefully. Jo shrugged.

 

“I guess she doesn’t want me to start talking about it publicly, as if I even would…” He smiled somewhat bitterly still not looking at me and then he sighed. “I saw Henri once, some months ago. I saw him while mom was picking me up from my therapy. He came from the shop near by, was walking to his car and I know he saw me. He was lucky that my mom didn’t see him…” Jo smiled sadly and I didn’t want to interrupt him, only kept hoping I could make him feel better about everything.“…And I didn’t say anything to her. He hurried to his car and drove off… and that was that…” Jo’s gaze drifted to his hands. “Perhaps he feels remorse… “ He shrugged. “It made me feel… empty… out of energy… There has to be something wrong with me… My therapist says it wasn’t my fault, but it has to be… It’s not normal… and you… You tried to warn me, but…” I reached to take his hand in mine.

 

“It was not your fault!” I said, feeling upset. “None of it!” He turned his eyes to me watching me carefully. “There are many should haves, would haves… We can’t take it back, but… “ I continued to hold his hand which he didn’t try to draw back and it gave me hope. “This fits,” I whispered, curling my fingers around his. “We can’t take back what happened, but we can live together and survive together, please let me back… I’ve missed you.”

 

He was silent for awhile, looking at our joined hands. “I don’t know if you realise…” He started. “I’m still not well, I have to see my therapist regularly and like I said I get anxious easily and I… My life is not easy to share and you could have something normal instead of someone like me…” He carefully pulled his hand back.

 

“No, I can’t have something normal, what is that anyway?” I asked. “I love you Jonas, what happened affected me as well… Your wound is mine and I want to find the cure with you, can’t you see that? I know that you have trust in me left, I see it… Please, let me back into your life?”

 

He watched me for a while before getting up. “Would you like something to eat?” He asked instead of replying. “I could prepare some salad and chicken,” he continued and I sighed.

 

“Sure, if you let me help you?” I asked and he glanced at me while getting ingredients from the fridge.

 

“If you like,” he said softly and kneeled to take a pan from the cupboard. I walked beside him, observing Jo carefully as he started cutting the vegetables. “You can fry the chicken Alex, if you want to?” He suggested without looking at me.

 

“Yes,” I smiled and nodded, keeping my eyes on him. I still hadn’t received my answer, I felt anxious though I kept trying to remind myself to be patient. I kept wondering what went through his mind, wishing I could read him better.

 

Finally we sat back in front of the table to eat. I couldn’t take my eyes from Jo, and it still felt somehow surreal to see him there, so close and so… familiar. If only I could have held him, kiss his forehead, and hold his hand in mine. He took small bites, ate slowly but at least he ate. And I… The silence that had settled made my anxiousness crow; I wanted so badly to be his again, to know that I was accepted back where I belonged. Finally he brought his gaze up to me, watching me silently for awhile as if wondering about something.

 

“What would you do, Alex?” He asked then barely loud enough for me to hear.

 

“What do you mean?” I asked with confusion and he seemed to hesitate a moment before replying.

 

“If you were to live here,” he answered tilting his head and I couldn’t help but to smile as all my hopes woke.

 

“Find work and study Finnish, perhaps you could help me with that?” I placed my fork down not taking my eyes from him. “The language I mean…”

 

Jo bit his lip, glanced at Taffy who lay beside the table watching us. “Why would you want to be with me Alex?” He whispered. “I am nothing…”

 

“That’s not true Jo, you are everything to me,” I told him and slowly started to move my hand across the table, closer to his, my fingertips touched his. “We’re both still young...” I started, watching his slender hand. “We have time … Jo,” I brought my gaze back up to his glimmering eyes. “I know it won’t be easy. I know there will be nightmares and uneasy nights, I know you are scared and wish to avoid crowds and new people, I understand. I also know there might come times when you want to get away from my closeness and that is fine, sometimes we will argue and that is fine as well. I won’t always understand your actions and neither you will mine but with time, with years passing we learn each other better and know what to expect from the other. I love you, I want to be with you, good or bad, because I also know there will be good and there will be happiness, trust me.” I carefully closed his hand in mine, giving it a gentle squeeze. “Small steps, just holding hands, that’s all for now and later…” I shrugged. “We’ll see, we learn how to touch again the way you feel comfortable, you set the rules and I will follow them, I only want to be in your life again.” I knew I was repeating myself but in this situation I thought it was needed.

 

 

“Can you really satisfy yourself with that?” He whispered after what had seemed minutes of silence. “I’m still scared you might leave me later, after… I’m just frightened…”

 

“I won’t leave you, I promise.” I told him knowing full well that with him, in this situation it couldn’t be just trying how it would feel, it was commitment that he needed. “I’ll be here, we make it work together,” I assured and he looked at me with still watering eyes, hesitating smile and then a final nod. He brought his hands to his neck pulling out the chain that was partly hidden under his shirt and I saw the ring attached to it. Jo’s hands were trembling slightly as he unlocked it and took the ring to his hand, then brought his gaze up to me.

 

“I’m not ready to share my bed yet and I can’t promise anything… I… Perhaps… if you are willing to patient and wait and… just… If you are sure that this is what you really want then you may put my ring back to my finger, but only if you are sure?”

 

“Didn’t I already say that I am?” I asked smiling slightly, gently taking his left hand and then the ring which he held on his right palm which I slipped to his slender finger, the ring was slightly loose but I was sure that with time I would get Jo to eat more and then it would fit better. “There, now it looks right.” I smiled and got another smile from him, it was still weary smile but more real and honest I had seen in those few days. I brought my hand to his face, caressing his cheek softly. “I missed that smile…”

 

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Eventually I moved my belongings from Germany, said goodbyes to my friends and told them to visit Finland if they could later. First I wanted to place my full focus on Jo and to make him feel more comfortable around me.

 

 At first I slept in the living room, a month went by and he requested me to the bedroom where I slept on the floor at the beginning. His nightmares usually woke me up and after some time he started to crawl from the bed to my mattress snuggling close to my side which meant a huge deal. Innocent closeness and warmth, I often laid awake just watching him sleep there next to me, gently stroking his hair feeling amazed and blessed to have him there with me after already thinking I had lost him for good. Sometimes the amount of love I felt for him felt so intense that it was frightening, I never wanted to lose him again and I knew I would always act protective towards him. By fall we shared the same bed and by that time we had shared our first kiss after those two years that we had missed. Jo wasn’t ready yet to take it beyond kissing and cuddling but it was fine since I had known from the start that it might take quite awhile. I considered sleeping on the same bed and kissing quite huge progress in the matter of just 3 months.

 

I watched him getting healthier, eating habits turning more normal, smiling more often and more sincere and with each passing day I felt more and more certain we could one day reach some form of normality in our lives. Slow steps, careful steps, but there was no hurry, we had our whole lives ahead. We might not have had the happily ever after, but we had each other and as difficult as it sometimes was, the love that we shared conquered even the ugliest nightmares. I had my Jo and he was all that I needed or ever wanted. Plenty of patience, plenty of care, the road was long but I was ready for the journey, it would be worth it and we would survive; I knew we would.

 

-The end-



Web published: My Secret Shore

May 16th, 2010.

© KOLGRIM

 

 

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